Posted by: joshteckes on: January 30, 2009
Now, the first few times you try this, you may not be completely comfortable. Why? Because you need to practice! Once you have approached women a few times, it will become much more natural to you. As it becomes more like a second nature to you, you will become more confident. Your fear of rejection will quickly disappear.
As you gain experience, you should see a dramatic increase with your success. Just remember to be confident and relax. You can become a master and attract and approach women with confidence.
Are you worried about being rejected when you try to meet and attract a woman? If you want to improve your success with meeting girls, then you need to learn one crucial step. You need to overcome your fear of rejection. This fear of being rejected is one of the major problems that guys face when approaching women.
Does this sound like you? You see a girl you want to meet but then you start worrying about what she might say or do. You think about everything and anything else that could go wrong. You analyze the situation, give into your fear, and then walk away without ever even talking to her.
You need to build up your confidence and forget about being turned down. When you act confident, you practically become more attractive by being so sure of yourself. Trust me… women love this! But, make sure that you do not come across as arrogant. That can be a big turn off.
Even if though there is a possibility she may not be interested, you should just forget about any negativity. There can be several reasons why she may turn you down, such as already being in a relationship. This reason would have absolutely nothing to do with you and your approach. So, get rid of negative thoughts immediately.
When you are approaching a woman, just focus on starting up a conversation with her. Relax and throw your nervousness and fears aside. After all, you ooze with confidence, right?
Posted by: joshteckes on: January 27, 2009
Start making random approaches- No matter how nervous you might be the best possible way to get done with this once and for all is to really start taking action. You see you might stumble with your very first approach but when you start getting used to it your level of confidence would build up and you would start getting more positive responses.
What to say- Now what you say is extremely important as the content make a big difference when it comes to really getting a woman to listen to you. Therefore don’t make the mistakes other guys make and never open with one of those lousy pick up lines. Try to come up with something original of your own which is decent enough to get her attention.
Never hesitate- The moment you hesitate you have a lost the whole battle. Women are very rapid to pick up on your body language and would know instantly what you are trying to do. Do you know that other than random guys approaching them what women fear the most? Well it’s nervous guys who make the approach. This is something women can’t stand and if you approach her with a hesitant look on your face than you are bound to get rejected therefore learn to remain calm and act confident.
Posted by: joshteckes on: January 26, 2009
2-Ask questions. As in the previous example, asking a group for their opinion on something—especially something funny—is a great way to get inside the group, then get to the girl you’re interested in. If you ask the question in a genuine way, and listen intently, the group of girls will feel flattered and excited. You’ve also given them a spark to an otherwise boring evening out. Joke about their answers, and ask more questions, and you should be in for a while.
3-Develop a secret, “inside” joke. Nothing works quite like having something personal between you and a group of people. An inside joke, or a secret handshake or sign, is a great way to do things. Try saying something to the group like, “Hey, ya know, we need a secret handshake or something.” Girls are all about making connections, so doing something that builds a strong foundation for friendship means guaranteed success.
1-Use Humor. I had a friend I did a schtick with that ALWAYS got us into the group. One of us would go to a girl in the group and be like, “Hey, I need your help on something. Do you think my friend Mike—or whatever your friend’s name is—is gay? I mean, look at his nice shirt, nice hair, nice skin. He’s gotta be gay!” Not only do girls laugh at this, but they feel they have to give their input. Nothing quite flatters like asking for advice.
Posted by: joshteckes on: January 26, 2009
Method Number Two – “Do Not Hesitate”. Hesitation is a true killer of approach success. Once you stop and start thinking, your brains will play out the doomsday scenario. Even when you do approach after you hesitate, the girl will detect your insecurity a mile off. So what to do then? When you see a girl you like, make your approach in 3 seconds.
Method Number Three – “Use Fractionation”. This is a technique adapted from the practice of hypnosis, and is highly effective when it comes to developing deep rapport with women. It involves a very simple way to talking to women so that they are brought through an emotional rollercoaster during the conversation. It has been reported that women have been made to want to sleep with a man they just met in just 15 minutes. Very powerful stuff indeed.
Method Number One – “Start Small”. Today, start going out and make random approaches – to both men and women. Everyone stumbles on their first approach – so do not worry too much. Get used to it and see your confidence levels rise to unprecedented levels.
Posted by: joshteckes on: January 26, 2009
Tactic Number Two – “The Blitzer”. What you may not know is that dating is an essentially numbers game – if you do enough approaches, there will be enough attractive females who will respond to you. Do a ‘blitz’ and start approaching 5 random women you meet for a start. Don’t worry if you are getting numbers or not. Work your way up to at least ten women per day. You WILL get better – trust me on this.
(Underhanded) Tactic Number Three – “The Hypnotist”. If you want a shortcut to make women like you almost immediately, you might as well hypnotize her. One technique you can use is called ‘fractionation’.
Tactic Number One – “Five Seconds Rule”. When you notice a girl you are interested to talk to – the rule of thumb is that you must make your move within five seconds. The reasoning is this – the more you ponder over whether you will approach or not, your brain will run ‘doomsday scenarios’ and make you nervous. And guess what – women reject nervous men who come across as insecure. Remember – you snooze, you lose.
Posted by: joshteckes on: January 26, 2009
1. Body Language…
I was reading about some studies, and apparently 90% of communication is through body language. Need I say more?
Work on confident body language. This includes holding your head up high, walking with your chest out and your shoulders back, and maintaining strong eye contact.
Again, we like to be with the confident leaders, not the wimps. You can show us the type of man you are through your body language.
3. Make us Curious…
Curiosity is a very powerful tool when used correctly. Don’t be like every other guy who buys us drinks. I can guarantee you that we aren’t thinking of these guys at the end of the night. They all just blend in to the crowd.
Don’t be afraid to be a little cocky. This gets us asking ourselves for the reasons why you are so cocky. You must have some good reasons, right?
Once we are curious, we will want to get to know more about you.
Obviously, you need to be sure that you do this tastefully. Being overly cocky is just being a jerk.
1. Lead…
To put it bluntly, we don’t like men who are followers. We leave those men for the other women.
We want leaders. We want the ones who make decisions and do not second guess themselves. How can you convey this to us?
Simple. Just be the leader of your group. Be the one who makes the major decisions like what to do and where to sit. Don’t second guess yourself either.
Posted by: joshteckes on: January 25, 2009
You decided that you were tired of the numerous rejections, the wet palms and the knocking knees. You decided that it was time to start reading and studying on how to approach women. You went to the library and ordered a read all the books that you could get your hands on. You went to your computer and jumped onto the Internet to see what you could find. You studied what the pickup gurus had to say. You read book after book from the attraction consultants. So what are you going to do now?
The best way to approach women is to just get out there and do it. Let me repeat myself because this is extremely important. If you want to learn how to approach women, you must get out there and use all of the techniques and tips that you have read about. The tips and techniques will do you know good if they are not followed with action and experience. They are no good if all they are is words on the page or words in your brain.
You have acquired a wealth of knowledge. You have used up money energy and time. If you do not take action, you will stay at the same level. You won’t move forward or upward. Your success level will go nowhere. The knowledge is not enough for you to improve your ability to approach women. The important key is to have action or field experience to go along with the knowledge.
We could go to dating seminars and read books day in and day out. It’s going to be the experience gained in the trenches that will help you learn. It is the experiences gained with your buddies that will help you to understand the best ways or new techniques to approach women.
I am sure that you have heard of the 80/20 rule. Let me show you how it applies here. 80% of your success will come from 20% of your focus. Even with everything that you read, the field experience is part of the 20% that impacted 80% of my success in the area of how to approach women.
If you want to test yourself to see if you are spending enough time in the field, figure out how much time you are spending reading, studying or watching dating courses. Are you spending more time doing that than out there actually talking and approaching women? If you are then you must take immediate action and get out of the house, get out of the library and start taking action.
It doesn’t matter whom you talk to, what you say, or how you say it. You just need to make sure that you are out there practicing what you have read about. Make sure that you practice using the tips and techniques that you have learned. You will find that you will improve your skills at an impressive rate. Once you have learned the skills, you must get out there and practice the skills, not continue spending all of your time reading. You will find that you ability to approach women will grow much faster and much stronger than ever before.
Posted by: joshteckes on: January 24, 2009
Guys, are you sitting there, too shy to talk to women? How many times have you seen that confident, arrogant guy walk straight up to her, and start talking to her? And then you go home alone. Why do girls like arrogant guys?
The fact is though, if you find out what women really think, they actually don’t like those arrogant men much at all. The problem for them is, the shy, sensitive and caring guys (like you?) just don’t approach them. So it’s really up to you! They’re waiting!
Right now, here is what you do. In three steps.
Second Step: Be Confident!
The fact is, you’re a very special person, aren’t you? So you don’t need to try to “put on a show”. If you just be yourself, your specialness will shine through. Women are most impressed by guys who “act real”. They really don’t like men who try to act as though they’re someone else.
Third Step: Try Not To Appear Desperate…
This is the worst turn-off for a woman. Even if you haven’t had a date for ages, you have to act like it doesn’t matter much to you if she’s interested or not. Even if you really like her, you have to give her the chance to back out gracefully. It’s funny, but if she knows that, she will be far more likely to want to continue talking to you.
As I said before, women prefer nice guys over arrogant guys. So give them the chance to meet a nice guy for a change! You!
First Step: Don’t think too much.
There’s a story about a centipede who started to think about which leg to put forward first, and he got so confused and worried, he fell over. That’s what happens to you if you think too much. You start to think about all the things that could go wrong, so you give up before you start. So don’t think too much. Just go up to her and start talking. Don’t get nervous, and don’t think about what to say, just say the first thing you can think of.
Posted by: joshteckes on: January 24, 2009
There are many men that have lost their way when it comes to this game we call dating. A lot has changed since the days of courting with letters and finding your true love in high school. There are many more people that are single at an older age that could use some advice on how to approach women. Here are a few tips to help you get the date that you are after.
The main reason that most men have become so horrible and afraid to approach women is because of the added pressures that society has put on dating. Now men think they have to have a specific type of job, car, and have to look a certain way or they just won’t have a chance. This is just not true and any man, regardless of looks or salary, can have just about any woman if he knows the secrets.
Now, before we go into a few tips on approaching women you should know that having the knowledge to know what to do after you approach a woman and to know what to do in the relationship itself, if that is what you desire, is also important. There is a website that will be at the bottom of this article that will give you all the secrets you will need to get the woman of your dreams either in a long term relationship or just in bed for the night. It is worth taking a few minutes to check it out.
Okay now for a quick few tips that will help you approach women with more confidence than you thought possible….
First you need to walk up to her very casually and naturally. You should already have it in your mind that the conversation you are going to have with her is just going to be a fun few minutes and will not lead to anything. This is exactly what she will be thinking, which will make her much more comfortable with you.
Next, you need to get her to laugh or at least smile. Just have a natural conversation and at some point this will happen. When this happens ask for her number and thank her for the conversation. Then, simply walk away without looking back. This will leave her curious for more, which is a good start when you call her later.
Now there is definitely much more to the process of approaching a woman and dating. It cannot all be taught in an article, but we have already got the number for you.
Posted by: joshteckes on: January 23, 2009
Knowing how to approach women is a crucial part of meeting women, getting dates, getting laid, or finding the woman you want to marry. After all, you may be the greatest guy in the world once you’re in a relationship but if you don’t know how to approach women, those women will never know what they are missing.
So how the heck do you approach women?
If you’re going to approach and meet women you need to know how to start conversations with them.
Sounds simple, doesn’t it?
But most men freak out at this part. They don’t know what to say. They don’t know how to start. They’re afraid of being rejected or embarrassed.
Get over it. Harsh, I know. But that’s reality. No matter how smart, handsome, funny, or charming you are, there will be women that you approach that just aren’t interested for a variety of reasons. And those reasons have nothing to do with you so don’t take it personally, Just move on to the next woman.
By the way, and this may shock you, but you’re much better off approaching a woman and saying, “Hi, my name is…” than you are with some canned line she’s probably heard a million times.
If you can’t do that, go with something natural, not corny or canned. For example, if you’re with a group of guy friends, and you see a woman you want to talk to, try something like this.
Go up to her and explain that you and your friends are having a conversation about whatever, and that you really need a woman’s opinion. Of course, you need a real topic that she might find interesting. But if you do this, you’ve broken the ice without opening yourself up to the typical approach/rejection scenario.
And hey, women like having their opinion valued!
Once you get her opinion, ask her why she thinks that way. This keeps the conversation going and then it can go in a million different directions. And it becomes natural to stay engaged with her than to get her answer and go back to your friends!
Before you know it, you’ll be asking for her phone number.
